I find that when I was In school i often visualized myself on top of the world being loved by every Jack and Jill with the odd cliche moments of spraying champagne around for some un-specified victory. In all honesty I think all humans have that, where ever you are in your life things could always get better somehow. You could wake up a lottery millionaire, you could unexpectedly inherit a super-sized estate from a wealthy long lost relative. pfft! keep dreaming.
Yeah, that's right Keep Dreaming! If you've ever ran a race for your school, or took part in any sporting event of any kind, hell even chess! Do you ever see yourself leaving empty handed, no trophy, no first place prize and doing the walk of shame? You probably don't and hardly ever have.
Most people don't know it, but success is hard-wired into us. So Keep dreaming
"Making a Great First Impression"
"You never get a second chance to make a first impression" That's true by the way.
Making a Great First Impression. A first impression sets the foundations of where you'll lie in the hierarchy of whatever mini society you're now entering.
You really don't need designer shoes or the best shades on the market. First impressions are more about Don't's Than Do's. That's because you already have what it takes, some things just get in the way. But it's so much easier to give out the Don't's so I'll just cut to the chase with the Do's..
"Confidence always wins" .. the confident guy always gets the girl...
Be confident but not over confident.
Being confident means being the first to offer a hand-shake, and introducing yourself.
Listening and acknowledging what what someone is saying, by slightly nodding as they talk and repeating what they say when they finish. Like this..
Joe: Glad to meet you (insert your name) My name is Joe, I started here 3 months ago.
You: 3 Months? wow so I'm the newby now huh? (laugh a little as you make a little light humour)
Be humble. You need not try push yourself up the social ladder, it just makes people resent you. I once thought being smarter and better than everyone else go me friends. You can guess where I am right now...
So just relax and be easy going, try living in the moment and don't plan ahead. People look up to those they love feel most relaxed and secure around. Just be easy going and accept everyone for who they are.
"Getting on like a house on fire"
Gaining common ground... there isn't a specific method of doing this, it mainly depends upon your true personality but one way like I call..
.."You first" This is when i continuously fire question after question at someone. Yah you do need to listen carefully while he/she speaks! Take in as much as you can about the person your speaking to.
Try to put a twist to your questions. But of course remember to ask r
elevant questions, be out of the ordinary whilst restraining from being or seeming weird.
"What is a good question?" ..that's a good question..
A great question is a specific question, unless necessary try not to ask questions that can be simply answered with a Yes or No.
So ask open questions (Search definition)
Do Talk. One of the most important tools in gaining people's favour, talking to them. Genuinely taking an interest in someone's life. Psychologically you're making a person honestly feel worth something.
During the day, the people you think about most are the one's that make you feel loved and have more than a lil' something to live for. You want to make people feel the same way about you.
When you know enough about the person and you begin to get specific questions about yourself, try mildly to link your answers to what you know about the people. Even if you like completely different music, you could link a common factor about the artist of your favourite music to theirs. The aim is embed the idea in their mind that you both are alike.
This means possibly doing some research., the purpose of this is to take advantage of the human part of us that loves people who are most like us. Which is why people hang out with whom they share a similar background and lifestyle.
"Finding Your Identity" .. Just as easy as finding your super hero outfit and as hard as chewing sand..
It's like a way of branding, remember to stay natural. As well as being natural try having your own trade mark "thing" this could be a word you excessively use, just make sure it's something people will enjoy hearing it and it doesn't get annoying.
It could a piece of clothing or the way you wear it, it's probably easier and less annoying and more recognisab
le than having to remember repeating a word.
A good example is something that reminds everyone of an inside joke. It's a perfect way of bonding and bringing people together to create priceless memories.
"Keep your enemies closer than your friends"
The way you talk, walk and interact with people says a lot about yourself. First and fore-most treat everyone like their special. Show them that you like them. Even if there is someone you particularly don't like, see their good side, you don't have to love them.
This means that even when you need something you've got an open field, you can ask anyone and are not restricted to only certain people. You'll see that most people will be willing to help you.
